When I was drinking, I would often discount the importance of relationships. In recovery, I now know why. I wasn’t good at them.
Relationships are one of the most crucial parts of our lives. We are built for relationship, and we need them to thrive.
Everything is relational. Nothing exists in isolation. Look at nature. The tree that I see from my window has a relationship to the air, to the sun, to the soil, and to itself. How much more is true for us as complex human beings?
In previous posts, I have shared my own experiences and the wisdom of relationship experts. Relationships are so critically important that I ask you to put down all the baggage you’re carrying from past relationships so that you can open the door to new possibilities.
Past hurts and fear of rejection can immobilize us. We often, then, resort to our default setting of isolation, preferring loneliness to the fear of engaging.
Here is a list of the benefits of friendships and partnership. I provide these in hopes that you will summon the courage to put your fear in the backseat and get out there and live the life that is waiting for you:
- Relationships satisfy our need for connection.
- Relationships are the greatest catalyst for growth.
- Relationships enable us to better give and receive love.
- Relationships bring fresh perspectives to our lives.
- Relationships open us to new experiences.
- Relationships help us see our blind spots.
- Relationships provide support.
- Relationships make us better at relationships.
- Relationships deepen our understanding of ourselves.
- Relationships are fun, dammit! Next time, I’ll share about ways to meet other people so that you start enjoying the benefits listed above.
If you’d like to be free of your addiction, please contact me at ValuesBasedRecovery@gmail.com. I work with people who suffer from alcohol and drug addiction as well as behavioral addictions such as food, porn, and gambling. I work with clients in person or on the Zoom live video platform.
RJ Handley, Addiction Recovery Coach